Thursday, July 28, 2005
Movie Review: Regarding Henry
And then he gets shot in the head during a mugging.
The rest of the movie is about how he goes through rehab not only of himself physically but all aspect of his life (except the most important one which is the spiritual aspect).
If it was written by a Christian then it was subtle: one cruises in his life and then something drastic happens (getting shot at) and go through rebirth (rehab) and a new life starts, where everything in his life can be re-examined and he re-takes ownship of his life and his family's life -- becoming a real man. Reminds me of Walker Percy's Lost in the Cosmos of the suicide thought experiment.
What's neat about Christianity and what Jesus Christ offers is that one can experience a new life and start with a clean slate -- and you don't have to get shot at nor commit (unsuccessful) suicide!
NOTE: Rated PG-13 for strong language, sexual situations, one instance of potentially unsettling violence.
Sunday, July 24, 2005
Mothers need to let go
As commented in another blog:
A son is a son, until he takes a wife,And the Bible points out the original intent of how a married man should live:
but, a daughter is a daughter, for all of her life.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Gen 2:24So a man needs to "cut off" from his parents especially his mother when he gets married. By having the mother release her son in the manhood ceremonies, they allow her to prepare for the complete cutoff needed when he becomes married. The last thing a marriage needs is a Mama's boy.
For me, my mother doesn't want to let go completely, but because of my strongly held beliefs about Christianity (where we disagree in some areas) and home education (which we disagree completely), I am able to stand up to her -- yet honor them in all other areas we can agree on. If I wasn't the one insisting on home education, then I myself might have been a passive mama's boy....
Tuesday, July 19, 2005
Since I'm challenged by intellectual stimulation, I like music, as with any other man's creation, that are intellectual. Fugues are classic musical form where more than one instance of a melody are played together to make one beautiful music. J.S. Bach is known for taking this art to the heights with his composition "The Art of Fugue." Hence my interest in Bach's music and his conspirators (fellow musicians) especially during the period best know as Baroque. I also enjoy modern instrumentals, especially those labeled New Age [Jazz], since no words can get in the way of the music (unlike many pop music which tries to cover their weak music with words or beats or sound volume or their combos).
But most men are challenged differently: physically and skills other than intellectual. Why is sports such a favorite pastime during the church hours (Sunday morning or evening)? Or computer gaming so hot among the males?
How to tie all this to music at church? Or are such males hopelessly "lost?" I would hope not.
Wednesday, July 13, 2005
First and foremost, the man must submit to Christ and His teachings in the Bible (and then be under the authority of an elder/bishop). If the husband isn't submissive to Christ and not being a servant leader in the home, then the marriage is most likely to fail (since most marriages fail, I believe this is an accurate statement).
Next, the man must be able to love his wife unconditionally, warts and all.
Finally, he is now ready to get married and can start finding his bride. (Who may or may not be submissive -- but that doesn't matter since love is to be unconditional and even sacrificial.)
Such a man would be, presumably, Christ-like....
Friday, July 08, 2005
All too often, we confuse conversion with discipleship so that when a new convert is fired up we push them to just do the same rather than grow first as a discipleship process. Even a wheat takes few weeks to grow and bear fruit. And it has a lot of obstacles to overcome: birds, lack of water source, thorn bushes.
Also this excitement of the conversion dies down when we encounter oppositions and stumble in our efforts and then we just give up (seed on the rock phenomenon). Rather than being discipled so that this excitement can be channeled into growth along with mentored sharing of the gospel (rather than a pat on the back and say "just go do it").
Affirming Men: part 2 of reaching men
Bill asked two questions: "Jim, did your dad ever tell you that he loved you?"
Bill: "Did your dad ever tell you that he was proud of you?"
Bill (sensing the need to affirm Jim): "Jim, I know how committed you are to your wife and stepson; I know how hard you worked in school and how hard you labor at your job."
Then Bill did something remarkable. He reached out his hand and said, "Jim, I'm proud of you!"
Jim: he looked out the window -- and brushed a tear from his eye.
After landing, Jim lingered and at the end he handed his business card and said: "Bill, I'd like to know more about this King of yours. I may want to work for Him, too."
I know that many men (myself included) would be very much influenced if someone like Bill would have reached out to men in unsaved state. What a witness and we need more men like Bill. And I and my sons need to be more like Bill. Hmm, I guess this is what Jesus had in mind when He said "Go and make disciples..."
Sunday, July 03, 2005
Reaching to Men
One new idea that I learned was that discipleship can start before one is saved. Discipleship -- learning to live Christ-like -- doesn't have to start after a conversion. Thinking about Apostle Paul or even Cornelious of Caesarea, they studied the O.T. long before they faced Christ. And afterwards, Paul got plenty of time for discipleship -- although I'm not sure about Cornelious.
Going back to Asian men, inviting them to churchy meetings won't attract them but activities like boating would. The problem is how to attract men with limited budgets both money and time. As another friend pointed out, activities which interest men take time (shooting or even golf requires time: to practice, to train and then to actually play).